Butch: Not like the other girls

My brilliant leatherbrother SD Holman is releasing the next iteration of their photography series. They are currently raising funds to take butch imagery across North America. It started in my second home country, Canada (eh!), and will travel across the US if the project gets enough support. Check it out and consider supporting bringing butch back!

Butch: Not like the other girls

Surrender in San Francisco

I will be teaching at a very polished Pansexual conference in San Francisco, CA November 15-18th, 2013. Surrender is brought to you by the folks at Dark Odyssey who have a huge following for their events on the East Coast. This is their second year on this coast and the experience and expertise showed! The equipment was a rope lover's dream with huge trusses and plenty of space for all of us to play together. Speaking of playing together, the attendees and staff created a comfortable, education-based environment which I appreciate. I will be teaching my popular Fisting and G-Spotting class and am seeking volunteers for demo purposes. Please contact me if you are interested! Seeking demo fisting couple: I've found the greatest success with this class when I get a rock star demo couple who are familiar with each other and are used to being sexual in front of a crowd. And let me tell you, it's fun to watch a deep connection like that occur! If you would like to be that rock star fisting demo couple at Surrender, please email me at IMsL2009@gmail.com. *any gender and orientation welcome as long as at least one vagina is included

Surrender in San Francisco

Support a butch

My friend puts on a fantastic conference called Butch Voices and would love help to fund this safer space for gender expression.

The mission statement is as follows: 
The mission of BUTCH Voices is to enhance and sustain the well-being of all women, female-bodied, and trans-identified individuals who are Masculine of Center. We achieve this by providing programs that build community, positive visibility and empower us to advocate for our whole selves inclusive of and beyond our gender identity and sexual orientation.  Our community is vast and growing and we have many identifications that resemble what the world knows as our “butchness.” We recognize our diversity as having a foundation rooted in butch heritage. We welcome the on-going development of movements intentionally and critically inclusive of our gender variant community. BUTCH Voices is a social justice organization that is race and gender inclusive, pro-womanist and feminist.

If you would love to support a butch, please click on the above link.

Support a butch

Thunder in the Mountains: seeking demo couple

I am going to one of my "bucket list" conferences for the first time in Denver July 12th-14th. I've heard nothing but amazing things about Thunder and the producers have been great to work with. I'm teaching one of my favorite activities: Vaginal fisting and G-spotting!! I've found the greatest success with this class when I get a rock star demo couple who are familiar with each other and are used to being sexual in front of a crowd. And let me tell you, it's fun to watch a deep connection like that occur! If you would like to be that rock star fisting demo couple at Thunder in the Mountains, please email me at IMsL2009@gmail.com. *any gender and orientation welcome as long as at least one vagina is included

Thunder in the Mountains: seeking demo couple

I had the pleasure of teaching G-Spotting and Vaginal Fisting recently. Westcoast bound, the stellar conference in Vancouver B.C., featured a local sex educator couple who rocked the live demo portion to a very engaged audience. I was so inspired by this class that I wanted to post an article about the wonders of G-spotting. Enjoy!

Title: G Spot: How to Master It

As women, the ease in which we achieve an orgasm can fluctuate day to day. One day, you can bang several out in a row and then others it seems like it will never come. While a clitoral orgasm can be difficult to achieve at times, a g-spot orgasm can be even harder, especially if you don't really know where it is or how to target it. However, tapping into your g-spot and truly being able to achieve a g-spot orgasm can totally revolutionize your sex life and approach to bedroom fun. Fortunately, this is a spot that any woman can truly master with enough time, attention and work.

The g-spot is our powerhouse of sexuality. It holds an exclusive lock that when paired with the right key can give us the most mind blowing body sensation. Finding it is crucial to unlocking it.

The best way to find it is with your own fingers so you can truly know what it feels like. The next time you're feeling frisky, lay down in your bed and pick your dominate hand. Then insert your pointer finger inside of yourself and go about three inches up--almost the entire length of your finger. Then make an upward facing hook or "come hither" motion with your finger . You should feel a rough patch that feels different than the rest of you--that's your g-spot! Ha-zah.

Once you have found it, you can play with it yourself and see how you react. The first g-spot orgasm can take some time to achieve. It's not nearly as easy as a clitoral one, so you'll have to give it some time. Be sure to completely relax while you make your finger motion, this will make achieving the g-spot orgasm a lot easier. Eventually, you might get the overwhelming feeling that you're going to pee yourself. That's a good sign! Work through it and continue to try to relax. At that point, you should feel the sensation to continue to build and then before you know it, BAM!

Once you've found it, there are certainly some toys you can use to help make finding it easier and that make orgasm much more likely.

A G-Spot Vibrator is designed specifically to target your g-spot. These toys tend to look a little similar to standard vibrators, but typically have a curved, bulbous end. This toy will work exactly like your finger, but will take all of the work out of it and allow you to really lay back and relax. This is also a great toy to use with a partner. They can tantalize and tease you with while learning where your g-spot really is.

Ben Wa Balls, recently made famous by Fifty Shades of Grey, are actually a great tool to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and give more control over your vaginal muscles, which in turn help you achieve a g-spot orgasm much more easily. These little balls get placed inside of you and can be worn when you're working around the house or even during sex. They cause you to flex your PC muscles, thus strengthening them overtime. Strengthening your muscles gives you control over them. You'll notice them now when you're getting close and be able to push yourself over the edge by flexing them. They also roll around inside of you while you wear them and continue to graze your g-spot, causing you to possibly orgasm while vacuuming (wonderful, right?). Check out the different ben wa ball sizes you can get at adameve.com.

A piece of Sex Furniture can help you achieve a g-spot orgasm while having sex with your partner. The direction of penetration is imperative due to the location of the g-spot, so you're not likely to hit it if you're just going at it plain ole missionary style. Sex furniture is furniture made strictly for you to have sex on it and contains curves and bends that help put your body into the right position to achieve a g-spot orgasm.

A Sex Swing works similarly to sex furniture, but is twice the fun since you can swing to your orgasm. A sex swing allows you to get into many positions that are not usually possible due to strength or a bed, sofa etc. being in the way.

Finally, you always want to use lube when trying to find and turn on your g-spot. Lube will help keep fingers, toys and your partner moving smoothly and even help you relax more.

Kink in the frozen North

I am headed to teach fisting/g-spotting and rope bondage to the delightful (and hopefully warm!) folks in Edmonton Alberta February 17th - 19th. Lupercalia is a great event for beginners and seasoned veterans alike. Perhaps it is the freezing weather, but kinksters in Edmonton are some of the nicest and most accommodating people I have ever met. They really know how to have a sexy good time...check it out sometime eh!

Kink in the frozen North

Save some dollars on early IMsL registration

It's almost time! International Ms Leather 2012 Early Bird Registration is coming to a close on January 16, 2012! http://bit.ly/t2ODHa

Save some dollars on early IMsL registration

You too can be International Ms Leather

Looking for an adventure of a lifetime? Be an ImsL!

Contestant applications are due January 1st and please feel free to email me at IMsL2009@gmail.com if you have questions. Your titleholder year is what you make of it and it can be done economically and still be a whirlwind fun time!

See www.IMsL.org for more details and contestant applications.

You too can be International Ms Leather

13th Annual 12 Days fundraiser in Baltimore

Join me in celebrating the holidays with style at Hooker & boys' 12 Days of Christmas. Seriously, this is fun event where drag queens, leatherfolk, lesbians and allies all come together to support great charities and enjoy a fantastic show.

Keeping us in line are the Queen of Comedy Shawnna Alexander and the always delightful Summer Clearance. As an added bonus, I will be performing boylesque as Piston Chambers!

The proceeds will benefit the Carter/ Johnson Leather Library, the Leather Archives & Museum Woman’s Leather History Project, and Suicide Prevention Education Awareness for Kids. General admission is $13, reserved seating is $60 for a table of four. Contact www.HOOKERANDBOYS.ORG and reserve your tables now.

Date: Saturday December 10th, 2011
Time: 2pm
Location:
Hippo Club
1 W Eager St, Baltimore, MD 21201-5406

13th Annual 12 Days fundraiser in Baltimore

I just wanted to take a moment to reflect on the recent passing of some of our prominent community members. RJ, George Wong and others will be missed. Their hard work and dedication is an inspiration to all of us. To the younger members of our community, please take the time to talk to the more experienced and share their stories and wisdom.